People often mull over divorce for a long time before moving forward. Sometimes, this is for a good reason. Maybe they’re going to marriage counseling, for instance, and they want to see if it helps before they give up on the relationship. Other times, though, it’s a bit more perplexing.
One woman was very honest in the wake of her divorce, saying that one of her biggest regrets was that she hadn’t done it sooner. She knew there was no saving the marriage. She felt like her relationship with her spouse had changed and would never be the same again. But, as she put it, she just did not have the courage.
Another potential reason that people avoid divorce is that they want to avoid addressing the problems with their marriage. They don’t want to talk about them and they don’t want to address them. They hope they’ll just go away on their own. When they don’t, they eventually have no choice but to get divorced.
Often, people also worry about making the wrong choice. Are they asking for a divorce over a minor issue? Will they ever get married again? A year from now, are they going to regret it? They worry about all of these things, rather than worrying about the real issues in their actual relationship that are causing problems at the moment. That’s why, like the woman quoted above, they sometimes look back and wish they’d done it sooner.
If you believe that it is time for you to file for divorce, make sure you know exactly what rights you have and what steps to take to protect your interests and get the process off to a good start.